“My wife is unattractive”


The Gemara relates that R’ Yitzchak ben Eliyashiv once observed his student, R’ Mani depressed. The Rebbe asked what was wrong and the student complained, “My wife is unattractive.” “What is her name?” R’ Yitzchak asked. R’ Mani replied, “Chana.” “May Chana become beautiful,” R‟ Yitzchak prayed, and so it was. A short while later, R’ Mani again complained. “She is beautiful now,” he cried, “and treats me in an arrogant and offhand way.”  “If so,” R’ Yitzchak said, “May she again be unattractive.”  (Taanis 23b)

And so it was. Whatever Hashem gives us for our ultimate best – our attempts to “improve” things may not always lead to desirable outcomes. When we realize this fully, our lives are completely different. ~ Rav Menachem Azolai as translated by Dov Elias

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2 Responses to “My wife is unattractive”

  1. dmrosalim's avatar dmrosalim says:

    Can you confirm for me that R. Lazer Brody did indeed translate that tefilla toda? I have been wanting to find the origin of that bracha.

    thanks and kol hakavod for your daily posts!!!

    Debbie from Teaneck,

    Always remember…”Ain od milvado”

  2. Emuna Daily's avatar Jeremy says:

    Hi Debbie, I haven’t forgotten about you. I checked where I got it from and it clearly states that it is translated by Rabbi Brody. It’s on a nice laminated card in memory of several people. It doesn’t state the original source. I know that when I first saw it and was so excited by it, my friend told me that he has it in Hebrew and says it once a week. A different time he told me that he has a breslev siddur which has prayers for every occasion. so that is probably what he was referring to. here is a link that might have what you are looking for – http://www.breslev.co.il/store/books/prayer_books_siddurim/aneni__special_prayers_for_special_occasions.aspx?id=11197&language=english

    Thanks for reading my posts.

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