The Chozeh of Lublin once wanted to arrive early in the morning to take care of an important matter. The day before, he asked his wife to prepare his evening meal earlier than usual. But it turned out that the meal was prepared much later than usual.
He commented, “It would be natural for me to become angry now. But the only reason I wanted to have the meal early was to do the will of my creator. This too is the will of my creator that I should not become angry.” ~ Niflaos HaRebbe
Regarding someone who was worried about his lack of money but reluctant to take from others, R’ Yechezkail Levenstein replied:
“You wrote you find it difficult to take financial assistance from others. That is truly the proper attitude to have. But your worrying and anxiety is an even greater problem. It is worthwhile to choose the smaller problem rather than the greater one.”
When you have an awareness that a situation or occurrence is a test, you will find it much easier to deal with.
To illustrate this concept, imagine that you went for a job interview and the potential employer shouted an insult at you. You would most probably feel either upset or angry. But if someone told you in advance that this employer shouts at job candidates to test their reaction to stress, you would find it easy to remain calm. You realize it is just a test and it is in your best interest to pass it.
That is how we can view each event and situation. It is a test of our spiritual strength and courage, and we can look forward to passing it. ~ R’ Zelig Pliskin
It is a mistake to think that the yetzer hara’s purpose is to merely cause a person to sin; its true goal is to destroy a person completely. Once he tricks someone into sinning, it does not even let him enjoy his act, but rather consumes him with remorse. It is terrifying to think what kind of enemy each of us carry within ourselves. ~ R’ Itzele Petersburger zt”l
When we sin, we must regret it and do teshuvah, but don’t fall for the yetzer hara’s tricks and get you depressed over it.
A person should train himself to serenely accept whatever happens to him. As our Sages say: “Train yourself to accept suffering and forgive insult” (Avos d’Rabbi Nasan). Thereby, he will find it much easier to guard his tongue. ~ Chofetz Chaim
“In succos, you shall dwell…” The Gemara derives from this passuk that one should live in the succah in the same way one lives in his home. However, the Satmar Rebbe taught that we should also derive from this passuk the opposite, that one should live in his home in the same manner that he lives in the succah. He should bring the atmosphere that he experienced in the succah to his daily life. ~ R’ Elimelech Biderman Shlita
The one who fears Hashem won’t only have succos during the holiday of Succos, but throughout the entire year he will remember that life is temporary; he’s living here as a guest. One should sleep in the shade of the succah and leave the permanent dwelling place… He should look up at the stars and place his trust in Hashem…. ~ R’ Yohonoson Eibshitz zt”l