Telling your spouse loshon hora

Relating loshon hora to one’s spouse is not less forbidden than when relating it to anyone else. ~ Sefer Chofetz Chaim

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When some boys stopped attending Hebrew School

Several Bar-Mitzva age boys stopped attending Hebrew school. A concerned shliach took the teenagers to visit the Lubavitcher Rebbe, hoping the Rebbe would convince them to continue seeking a Jewish education.

“Tell me,” the Rebbe asked the first boy, “why have you decided to stop attending Hebrew school?”

“All the other boys on my block have stopped going to Hebrew school, so I want to stop as well,” he answered.

“And what about you?” the Rebbe asked the second boy.

“Same reason,” the boy explained, “the kids on my block don’t go, so why should I?”

“Tell me,” the Rebbe asked the boys, “who were your favorite Jewish heroes that you learned about?”

One boy responded that he deeply admired Noah, and the other, Abraham.

“Do you know,” the Rebbe told the first boy, “that if Noah would have followed all the other kids on his block, we would have no world? And if Abraham would have followed all the kids on his block,” the Rebbe told the second boy, “we would have no Jewish people!” ~ Chicken Soup to Warm the Neshama

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Honor Destroys

Honor destroys both the body and the soul.  It is disgraceful for me to be addressed as, “Our master and teacher,” since I am neither.  I wish to be addressed only as “The one who loves us and seeks our good.”  I think that might be the truth. ~ R’ Simcha Zissel Ziv zt”l (The Alter of Kelm)

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The Power of Thoughts

When studying subjects dealing with tragedy, such as the laws of mourning, do not delve too deeply.  One should not probe too deeply into these matters, for thoughts have great power.  These subjects should therefore be covered as rapidly as possible.  ~ R’ Nachman of Breslov

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Interesting thought on Ezer Kenegdo

On the Torah’s statement that a wife was created as “ezer kenegdo, a helpmate against him,” the Talmud explains “If he is worthy, she is a helpmate.  If he is not worthy, she is against him.”

R’ Yisroel Salanter zt”l added, “This applies to every minute of a person’s life.  Whenever I improve myself, my wife becomes better too.”  ~ Sparks of Mussar

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With What Merit will you Come to the World of Truth With?

With what merit will I come to the World of Truth?

Torah? Do I truly have Torah?

Fear of Heaven?  Do I truly have fear of Heaven?

….With but one merit will I come – That I love Jews! ~ R’ Boruch Ber Lebowitz zt”l

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Try to be Silent

Try to be silent.  Generally speaking, you aren’t learning much when your mouth is moving! ~ R’ Noach Weinberg zt”l as quoted in Torah Tavlin

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Loshon Hora in Jest

The fact that someone is “only joking” is not a valid excuse for speaking loshon hora.

One Purim a group of Radiner Yeshiva students performed a skit in the house of the Chofetz Chayim of sacred memory.  Among other things, they jokingly alluded to an episode that had caused a large controversy in yeshiva circles.  Immediately, the Chofetz Chayim admonished them softly, “Even on Purim one must refrain from loshon hora.  ~ Guard Your Tongue

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Never Ready for Shabbos

Someone once came to Rabbi Yechezkail Levenstein, the menahel ruchani of Ponevez Yeshiva, and complained that his wife did not complete Shabbos preparations early enough.  He said that although he keeps admonishing her for her lateness, nothing seems to help.  “What should I do?” he asked.

“Take a broom and assist your wife,” was R’ Yechezkail’s laconic reply. ~ R’ Zelig Pliskin

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Spiritual v. Physical

Spiritual life is superior to physical life. But the physical life of another is an obligation of my spiritual life. ~ R’ Yisroel Salanter zt”l

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