John Doe

It is not necessary to explicitly mention someone’s name for a statement to be considered loshon hora.  If the listener will be able to deduce the identity of the person you are referring to, you are guilty of speaking loshon hora. ~ Guard Your Tongue

 

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Day 1 of a Lofty 6 Year Goal

If you are reading this, you obviously want to serve Hashem.  The question is, are you doing it properly?  We can’t serve Hashem properly without knowing how.  The only way to do so is by learning halacha.

Today marks the very first day of a 6 year cycle of learning an amud (page) of Mishnah Brurah daily, Sunday – Thursdays.  The daily 15 minute online shiur will be delivered by Rabbi Dr. Aaron Glatt.

Follow along in the car, train, before or after davening, or at any convenient time either on your phone or on your computer.  It is just 15 minutes a day, 5 days a week.  Imagine completing the entire Mishna Brurah in 6 years by setting aside a total of just an hour and 15 minutes a week.

Here is a link to an introduction of the shiur:
https://www.ou.org/torah/halacha/halacha-on-ou/mishnah-brurah-yomi-introduction/

And here is a link to the first shiur (Daf 4a, the first page in the Mishnah Brurah):
https://www.ou.org/torah/halacha/mishnah-brurah-yomi/mishnah-brurah-4a/

Give it a try!  You won’t regret it.

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Powerful Story and Lesson

I received this in an email and had to share it with you as it is such an important lesson for all of us:

One day, when I was a freshman in high school,
I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school.
His name was Kyle.
It looked like he was carrying all of his books.
I thought to myself, ‘Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday?
He must really be a nerd.
I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on.
As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him.
They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt.
His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him…
He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes.
My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye.
As I handed him his glasses, I said, ‘Those guys are jerks.’
They really should get lives.
He looked at me and said, ‘Hey thanks!’
There was a big smile on his face.
It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.
I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived.
As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before.
He said he had gone to private school before now.
I would have never hung out with a private school kid before.
We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books.
He turned out to be a pretty cool kid.
I asked him if he wanted to play a little football
with my friends.
He said yes.
We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him.
Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again.
I stopped him and said, ‘Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!
He just laughed and handed me half the books.
Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends.
When we were seniors we began to think about college.
Kyle decided on Georgetown and I was going to Duke.
I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never
be a problem.
He was going to be a doctor and I was going for business on a football scholarship.
Kyle was valedictorian of our class.
I teased him all the time about being a nerd.
He had to prepare a speech for graduation.
I was so glad it wasn’t me having to get up there and speak.
Graduation day, I saw Kyle.
He looked great.
He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school.
He filled out and actually looked good in glasses.
He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him.
Boy, sometimes I was jealous!
Today was one of those days.
I could see that he was nervous about his speech.
So, I smacked him on the back and said, ‘Hey, big guy, you’ll be great!’
He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled…
‘Thanks,’ he said.
As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began…
‘Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years.
Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach…but mostly your friends…
I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them.
I am going to tell you a story.’
I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the first day we met.
He had planned to kill himself over the weekend.
He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn’t have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home.
He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile.
‘Thankfully, I was saved.
My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable.’
I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment.
I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile.
Not until that moment did I realize its depth.
Never underestimate the power of your actions.
With one small gesture you can change a person’s life.
For better or for worse.
God puts us all in each others lives to impact one another in some way.

Remember the mishna in Pirkei Avos (1:15) where Shammai said that we must “receive every person with a cheerful countenance.”

You never know the impact you can make on a person with just a smile or a few kind words.

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Can you hear me now?

Prayer: the world’s greatest wireless connection

http://halachafortodaycom.blogspot.com/

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Special Prayer Today for Parnassah

I just wanted to share that I am told that the Shlah Hakodosh wrote in sefer Shnei Luchos Habris that today, the day before Erev Rosh Chodesh Nissan, is an auspicious time to ask for parnassah.  He writes that one should fast today, but if not, the fast could be redeemed through giving tzedaka.  Either way, one can say this tefilah, which asks Hashem for parnassah and that our merits not be used up in this world.

http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/pdf/ShlahTefilahParnasa.pdf

Don’t forget to give tzedaka.

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The “Real You”

Don’t be afraid of discovering that the “real you” may be different than the “current you.” ~ R’ Noach Weinberg zt”l

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Bring Good News

The more good news you bring your Creator, the less need you will have to complain about the opposite.

Meditate on those things you have to be thankful for. Express your thanks out loud.

The number of things to kvetch about will rapidly diminish. ~ R’ Tzvi Freeman

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Little by Little

If you wait until you can do everything for everybody, instead of something for somebody, you’ll end up not doing anything for anybody. ~ Malcolm Bane

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The Good Old Days

Don’t waste your time saying that the good old days were different. Of course they were different. But right now is the good old days.

I’ll tell you a secret. Someday they’ll see today as the good old days. These are the good old days, because you have in yourself all the goodness. Life is the opportunity to bring forth what you have and make out of yourself the best you can be. ~ R’ Avigdor Miller zt”l

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Telling your spouse loshon hora

Relating loshon hora to one’s spouse is not less forbidden than when relating it to anyone else. ~ Sefer Chofetz Chaim

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