The Royal Family

The Menoras Hamaor cites a Midrash in which a wise woman told her daughter: “Serve your husband as if he were a king.  For, if you will act toward him like his maid, he will act as if he were your servant and will honor you like a queen.  If, however, you try to dominate him, he will be your master, and you will be in his eyes like a maidservant. ~ R’ Zelig Pliskin

Alternatively, after I got married, Bernie Kesselman told me the following: “If you want to be king, you have to first treat your wife like a queen.”

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Exchange Rate

By speaking lashon hara against a person, one transfers all of his credits for Torah study and mitzvos to that person and receives in exchange all of the other person’s sins.  This is the meaning of the verse, “All of a person’s labor goes to his mouth.”  In other words, all of his reward is lost through his evil words.” ~ Chovos Halevovos

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The Teacher

When you are going through something difficult and wonder where Hashem is, remember that the teacher is always quiet during the test. 

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When the Stomach is Empty

Az der mogen iz laidik iz der moi’ech oich laidik.

When the stomach is empty, so is the brain.

Dedicated to many people I know 🙂 

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The Chafetz Chaim’s Court Appearance

“The Chafetz Chaim once had to testify in a Polish court as a character witness on behalf of a student who was falsely accused of a crime.  After the Chafetz Chaim testified that his student’s integrity was beyond reproach, the student’s lawyer told the judge, “I would like to give the court a glimpse of the greatness of this Rabbi.  A thief once stole something from him, and he pursued him shouting, ‘It’s yours! I forgive you!’ in order that the thief should not be guilty of sinning because of him.”  

The judge was skeptical, and asked the lawyer, “Do you really believe that story?”

“Of course, I did not personally witness it,” replied the lawyer. “But honorable judge, people do not relate such stories about you and me.” ~ R’ Zelig Pliskin

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Darwin

I am absolutely certain that if Darwin would have ever looked upon the holy, shining face of my Rebbi, the Chafetz Chaim, he could have never uttered such a ridiculous statement that man comes from apes. ~ R’ Elchanan Wasserman zt”l as quoted in Torah Tavlin

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An Easy Livelihood

If a person gives priority to the service of God and resolves to fear Him; trusts in Him in all his interests, religious and secular; turns away from the despicable things and aspires to good qualities; does not rebel when in comfort nor incline toward leisure; is not swayed by his baser instincts nor seduced by the enchanting things of the world – then he will be relieved of the burden of seeking and searching for a livelihood, since the two reasons [for obligating him to do so] that have been mentioned, trial and rebellion in the midst of prosperity, will have become inapplicable to him.  His livelihood will come to him without trouble or weariness, to the extent of his needs and requirements, as it is written, “God will not let the righteous go hungry.” (Mishlei 10:3) ~ Chovos Halevovos

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Repair

“If you see what needs to be repaired and how to repair it, then you have found a piece of the world that G-d has left for you to complete. But if you only see what is wrong and how ugly it is, then it is yourself that needs repair.” – Tzvi Freeman

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Take Some Torah with You to the Street

 “When someone walks the street and thinks words of Mishna or Tanya, or sits in his store with a Chumash or Tehillim – that is more valued today than it was when the streets were bright with the light of Torah. We must not go about in the street with a vacant heart. We must have some Torah memorized, to take with us into the street.” – Lubavitcher Rebbe

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Pride

All sins require some type of physical action – a movement of the hand or foot, an opening of the lips.  All except for pride.  A person can lie in bed, not moving at all, and say to himself, “I am great!” ~R’ Pinchos of Koretz zt”l as quoted in Torah Tavlin

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