lies

A ligen tor men nit zogen; dem emess iz men nit m’chuyev zogen

A lie you must not tell; the truth you don’t have to tell.

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A True Story from Rabbi Wagner

Last shabbos I was privileged to spend some time with Rabbi Shmuel Wagner shlita, from Yeshivat Ohr Yerushalayim, who related the following amazing story, which just happened a few months ago.

There is a young family living in Har Nof, Israel.  The husband learns in Yeshiva and the wife was making a living and supporting their family, until recently, when she lost her job.  Weeks went by and they literally had no money.  Their credit cards were maxed out and they had no one to go to for help.

The wife said to her husband, “Enough of this, I am going to daven and pour my heart out to Hashem, but while I am praying, I want you to go to the grocery store, “Rami Levy,” and buy us food for the next month.”  The husband said “Okay, but with what money?”  The wife said, “Don’t worry, something good will happen.”  She then proceeded to give him a very long shopping list that would fill their pantry with food for the next month.  The husband was baffled but listened to his wife and went to the store.  He had no idea how he would pay for any of it, but proceeded to fill up 3 carts with the food that his wife requested.  He then got on line and started putting the food on the conveyor belt while the cashier started scanning the items.  There were several people behind him on line.  He still had no idea how he was going to pay for any of this but was just trusting what his wife told him, that something good will happen.

The cashier was finally getting to the last few items, 5 items left…4 items left…when suddenly his phone rang.  Hoping for some good news, he picked up his phone and it was his wife.  “I forgot to put ketchup on the list” she said, “Can you make sure to get a bottle?”  The husband nervously said “sure” and hung up the phone.  He then told the cashier and everyone on line that he would be right back.  He then ran off the line to get the ketchup while the cashier and everyone on line stood there waiting.  When he came back, one of the men on line lost his patience and started yelling at the husband.  He just couldn’t believe that he had the audacity to leave the line to go back and get a bottle of ketchup.  After apologizing to the impatient man on line, the cashier said, “The total is 1900 shekalim.”

The husband then started feeling his empty pockets to see if by some miracle, he had any money to pay for it.  Suddenly, the man who a minute earlier was yelling at him, came from behind him, reached out and swiped his credit card, while saying “It’s on me.”  When the husband looked at him in disbelief, this man told him that he felt very bad that he embarrassed him a moment earlier and wanted to make it up to him.

But that is not the end of the story…

A few minutes later, the two of them were walking out of the store and the man asked the husband, “So what’s your story?”  He proceeded to tell him how he learns in yeshiva and everything was going well until his wife suddenly lost her job, and that it has been really rough lately.  After talking a little more and hearing the whole story, the man took out a checkbook and proceeded to write out 11 checks in the amount of 1900 shekalim each, handed them to him and said, “now you don’t have to worry about food for the next year.”

Again, this is a true story that just occurred a few months ago.

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Who’s Fault is it when Things go Wrong?

When a man is unhappy in life, he has to realize that, to a big extent, it is the sin that caused it.

Now that is a lot to swallow. People are reluctant to admit that because it puts a great deal of responsibility on one’s shoulders.  People prefer to have emunah (faith) and blame Hashem.

They should have emunah and blame themselves.  ~R’ Avigdor Miller zt”l

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Blending the Physical with the Spiritual

“Prior to Mattan Torah, the spiritual was spiritual, the physical was physical, and the two did not in any way impact one on another. The novel development at Har Sinai was that Hashem delegated to Am Yisrael the power to interfere with spirituality through their involvement with physicality.

After this moment, whenever a Jew puts on tefillin, not only does he do a physical act with a couple of boxes some straps and parchments of Torah, he actually causes a spiritual change. Furthermore, when Jews behave in a manner consistent with Torah and mitzvos they actually cause a spiritual change for the benefit of all mankind. When they do not so behave, they interfere negatively to the loss of mankind.” ~ The Lubavitcher Rebbe

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Lincoln’s Policy

President Abraham Lincoln was once criticized for his policy toward his enemies.

“Why do you try to befriend them?” he was asked. “You should try to destroy them.”

“Do I not destroy my enemies,” the president asked, “by befriending them?” ~ Chicken Soup for the Neshama

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Sitting in the Dark

“If one sits in the dark long enough, he begins to think it is light.” ~ R’ Hillel Partischer, disciple of the Tzemach Tzedek.

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Getting old?

Do not regret growing older.  It is a privilege denied to many.

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Try to Translate

“A shtikel mazel iz vert merer vi a ton gold” 

A little bit of luck is better than a ton of gold.

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R’ Shimon Shkop and an Old Interesting Canadian Law

Rav Shimon Shkop had traveled to Montreal to raise money for the yeshiva. He stayed at the home of a certain wealthy man, who was known for his generous contributions to worthwhile causes. When he arrived on this particular occasion he found his usually magnanimous host in joylessness and frustration. He had conveyed to Rav Shkop that great trouble had loomed for him and his family. As his family grew it became apparent that more room was needed for the children and more space was also needed for a larger meeting hall for community activities which the man hosted on a weekly basis. An addition was built onto the side of the house, but it was found out later that the addition extended a total of one foot onto the neighbor’s property, a very petty amount considering that both him and his neighbor had ample property to begin with. The problem was that a malcontent kvetcher lived next door, and demanded that something be done about the extension. But it wasn’t just “something” that she was after. Under Canadian law at the time, if an extension had been built onto another person’s property, purposely or inadvertently, the law said that the encroached-upon property’s owner had the right to tear down the entire house of the neighbor, and not merely the addition. And this was the case with the kvetcher. She demanded that the entire house be demolished. Rav Shkop’s host and his lawyer first fought with the old woman. They screamed and they yelled. He then tried entreating her, but she was not moved. He brought her flowers, then chocolates, and increasingly lavish gifts. And then their was more yelling.

Finally, upon Rav Shkop’s visit, he asked him for an eitza (advice). Surely, Rav Shkop could think up some sort of solution. And this is what Rav Shkop had to say: “Go to shul. Go as quickly as possible the next time the Torah will be taken out. Make sure you’re called up for an aliyah (to be called up to the Torah to make a blessing). Afterward, go with your lawyer to speak with the woman one more time.” Was that all? Would getting an aliyah save his house from being demolished? The next morning, Monday, he went to shul, and requested an aliyah from the gabbai. He called his lawyer after minyan, and the two rushed to the stubborn woman’s house next door. And the man said to her, pleadingly, “this is the last time; I promise you that this is the last time I will bother you about the house. Please, PLEASE don’t let the city tear down my home. It’s only one foot of land. I’ll cut away at the extension if you would like, but please not the entire home.” The woman, now confused, looked him in the eye, and said, “tear down your house? Why would I want to tear down your house? Who would be such a miserable person to tear down a neighbor’s entire home over a disputed foot of land? Please do as you like. It’s all right by me.” The man and his lawyer were flabbergasted. They offered the woman a polite “thank you” and practically tip-toed out of the house in fear that she might regain her senses and retract her words.

The two, elated, went back to Rav Shko Rav Shkop for some clarity. After all, the woman had been adamant for months about tearing down the house. It just didn’t make any sense. Rav Shkop explained, “it is brought down in the mishna berurah that the person getting an aliyah should follow along with the ba’al koreh (Torah reader) by actually looking down onto the claf (parchment). One should also look into the Torah, close enough that he sees the osiyos (letters) during hagbah (the lifting of the Torah). During an aliyah, however, he sees the osiyos up close, and this brings him a special zechus. In addition, there is a special light that emanates from the Torah, and when one looks into the Torah he becomes infused with this light. You went to the woman’s house almost directly after becoming infused with this light, and when she looked into your face, the radiance of the light touched her soul, and this woman who was formerly irrational, unreasonable, foolish and absurd, now became levelheaded, sensible, reasonable and decent. And this is how she came to change her mind.”

This story became famous throughout the Jewish community of Montreal, and also among the family of Rav Shkop. The story is still told today by members of the family of Rav Zelig Epstein and other grandchildren and great-grandchildren of Rav Shkop.

~ http://rebbestories.blogspot.com

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Finding Fault in Others?

When I start to find fault with all that I see, it’s time to start looking for what’s wrong with me. ~ The Baal Shem Tov

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