Satmar chassidim organized a special Shabbos together with their Rebbe, the Divrei Yoel of Satmar zt”l. A lot of planning, effort and money were invested to make this Shabbos a success. But on Friday afternoon, the Rebbetzin wasn’t feeling good , and she asked the Rebbe to remain home, and he obliged. He stayed home, and didn’t lead a tisch for his chassidim.
After Shabbos, the gabai told the Rebbe that the chassidim were disappointed. “Why does she always get her way?”
The Rebbe replied, “We have a kabbalah, tradition, that by shalom bayis, the one who is mivater is the minatzeiach (the one who gives in, is the winner).” ~ R’ Elimelech Biderman Shlita