Evil Character Traits

A person shouldn’t think that repentance is only necessary for those sins that involve deeds such as promiscuity, robbery or theft; rather, just as a person is obligated to repent from these, similarly, he must search after the evil character traits he has–he must repent from anger, hatred, envy, frivolity, the pursuit of money and honor, the pursuit of gluttony and the like. He must repent for all of the above. ~ Rambam

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It’s a trap!

Many people fall into the trap and tell their wives all that has happened in their relationships with others. Aside from the prohibition of lashon hara, doing so foments much strife.  Therefore, one who is careful about his soul, should be careful not to reveal such matters to his wife.  ~ Chafetz Chaim

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Mutually Exclusive

Sadness and emuna are mutually exclusive; the stronger one is, the weaker the other becomes. ~ R’ Lazer Brody

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Learning to Judge Others Favorably

Judge others as you would have them judge you.  The least you would want is to be treated with honesty and objectivity.  Beyond that, you surely would want to see compassion in the eyes of another person looking your way, because you know that your heart means well even if your hands and tongue stumble. The core practice in learning to judge others as you would be judged is to seek out a positive reason that explains why someone is doing something that seems so patently wrong. ~ Alan Morinis

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A Little Truth

A little truth conquers many lies, just as a little light repels much darkness. ~ R’ Bachya ibn Pekuda zt”l

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The Mailman’s Name

Someone came to his rebbe and said, “I used to have a good parnassah, but I lost that job. Now I don’t know how I will support myself, and I’m very worried…”

The rebbe asked him, “Do you have a mailbox?”

The man was confused by this question, as it seemed irrelevant to the discussion. Out of respect, he answered that he has a mailbox.

“Who is your mailman?”

“I don’t know his name.”

“Is the mail you receive important to you?”

“It’s very important, because sometimes I get cash in the mail. Even the bills are important to me, since I have to pay them. I also receive invitations and other important letters. The mail is therefore certainly important to me.”

“So if it’s important to you, why don’t you find out the name of the mailman who brings you the mail?”

“I don’t care who delivers the mail. His name can be Frank or Fred or Jim; what difference does it make to me. All I care about is that the mail should be delivered. The person that brings it is insignificant.”

Singing in the tune of Gemara learning, the rebbe replied, “So why are you so concerned about your parnassah?  Parnassah is sent by Hashem, and the work people do are like the mailman who brings it. It shouldn’t make a difference to us to know exactly by which means Hashem will send us the parnassah. Until now you earned your parnassah through your work, but you lost that job, so Hashem will send it a different way. The name of the mailman isn’t so important, and similarly, the name of the means isn’t important. Hashem has many means to support you.”  ~ R’ Elimelech Biderman Shlita

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No Shame

Not a single person in the world never makes a mistake.  There is no shame in a person’s saying he made a mistake.  But to stubbornly refuse to admit you made a mistake is shameful. ~ Pele Yoetz

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Internal

The only way to master peace of mind is to master the attitudes that foster it – and this is an internal process, not an external one. ~ R’ Zelig Pliskin

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Without Forcing it

Merely concentrate on the words, and strength will enter your prayers without your having to force it. ~ R’ Nachman of Breslov

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Constant Happiness

A person who lives with a constant awareness of the Almighty will live a life of constant happiness. ~ The Chazon Ish

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